I had multiple reasons to add this quote to my recent profile picture.
I am currently in a phase of my life where I am developing myself.
Don't let others define you.
When people tell you, you can't do anything, you won't achieve anything in life or you're worth nothing, you're going to believe this at some point. You start to think that you can’t do anything and that you are worth nothing. When you feel like this, you will behave like this. In my case I became very insecure whether I can do anything. If you are not stimulated by people, who are saying the opposite and trying to lift you back up, this can go on for a long time. These thoughts and feelings about yourself will become your own and takes you into a downward spiral and it will be difficult to get back up.
Don't let the past confide you.
I've been through a lot in the past. At one point in my life I felt stuck in a life, that I didn’t wanted to live in. Until I met someone and he showed me a different life. He showed me another life and how things could be done differently. Because of his trust, time and attention in me, I saw a way out of that life that I was living. At one point I started working at an attorney office and really enjoyed it. Until I got sick, the past caught up with me. All the things that happened to me and the emotions with it, came back. For years after I was very depressed. It was so bad that I tried to end my life. After that I had a lot of therapy and the support from my parents also helped me through it.
Take charge of your life with confidence and determination and there are no limits on what you can do or be.
Sometimes music can help you as well. This might sounds weird, but music helped me a lot.
It's no secret that I'm a fan of BTS. Especially their lyrics and message really appealed to me. It also helped me accept who I am and that I am worth of being there. I have learned that loving yourself is important. I also started to think about my life and what I wanted and what I wanted to achieve in this life.
Thinking about what I wanted and how I could achieve this has given me a lot of energy. For the this year I wanted to achieve 4 things. One of the most important things I want to achieve is self-confidence. I have noticed that this is an up and down process. In times when you are not doing so well, your self-confidence is lower than when you are doing well. You must continue to use skills that you have learned. If you don't do this, it will be difficult to get back into it. I was able to achieve almost all the goals I wanted to achieve in 1 year. I just don't have a house yet. A house where my daughters and I can live in. My self-confidence is a growing process. I have learned a lot, but I have still a long way to go.
The fact that I was able to do this myself gave me a lot of satisfaction and I am very proud of myself.
I did it by myself! Who said I can't do anything and can't achieve anything in life? I can do anything as long as I believe in myself and I am determined to achieve my goal.
Don't stop after a setback, learn from it and keep going!